Why get a coach?

Three benefits you will immediately get when you are coached, even just for a few times:

  • coaching clarifies your situation,
  • it moves you forward,
  • it boosts your confidence.

How coaching works in real life?

Let me give you an example.

About a week ago I totally freaked out. ‘I will never make this business work! How could I? I’m an immigrant stay-at-home mom with nothing but a long-expired university degree from abroad!’

My trigger was a nice chat with a lovely other beginner coach lady, who happen to have

  • tons of work experience in other fields,
  • lots of connections with well-off people and
  • great ol’ self-confidence, heaps of it.

And I have none of these. 🙁

So I called my coach friend and asked for an appointment. We worked for a good hour. By the end, I realized what my block was, I knew what to do next, and most of all, I felt confident that I can absolutely do it.

So I started working again and in a week I finished three important jobs necessary to grow my business. Yay! 🙂

Lesson I learnt: we see the world through our lenses. And sometimes we get stuck not as a result of real blocks… But because of our false views… created by our distorting lenses.

If you can change your perception, you can change your emotion and this can lead to new ideas.

Edward de Bono

So what a coach can do for you?

Coaching helps to clarify your situation

What’s on this picture?

close up photo of pavement

An everyday thing, but hard to tell at first on a close-up photo, right?

Same with our lives. We look at it from so close, we can miss parts of the picture. We can’t see the forest from the trees.

  • What is blocking me?
  • Why am I stuck?
  • What preconceptions, prejudices I have that narrow down my view of the situation?

Coaches can give us a new perspective as they paraphrase, ask great open questions or describe our position with big pic metaphors. Expect to have big ‘AHA!’ moments! A whole new array of possibilities can open up when the fog clears in front of us.

Coaching moves you forward

Have you ever noticed that you are running around in circles, very busy but you are not making any progress? (That’s me and my marketing efforts, hahaha!)

Great coaches can help you to stop, breath, and

  • focus on your goals,
  • decide on your priorities,
  • brainstorm for ideas,
  • choose what is the next step to do right now and
  • stay accountable.

The result: as you go back to work, you will not waste your time and efforts on peripheral things, instead, you make progress where it matters the most. So you get more bang for your buck. 🙂

Coaching gives you confidence

During our coaching session, my coach helped me to realize, that

  • I had a successful small business before so I have business experience I can apply now,
  • I already have coaching skills
  • I do have a network of people, maybe not a very big network but it exists.

So when you work with a coach, they will help you to see:

  • what are your strengths you can use here and now,
  • what experiences you have related to this,
  • what kind of similar problems you solved before.

Coaching can make a difference in a few sessions

There are situations when talking to a coach just a few times can give you instant results, saving time, headaches, and probably some money, too. Take a look at the examples in the chart below:

Your situation The problem Assistance from life coach
You are ready to lose weight, quit a bad habit, or finish a never ending project,   but you tried and gave up before a few times. A coach can help you to use your experiences from the past attempts to finally conquer the beast this time.

Plus every benefit I mention in this post before. 🙂

You have a goal close to your heart but it is several obstacles away, that might need a detailed long-term plan to reach. Your life coach will know the best goal setting methods for your situation.

Also can help to brainstorm new ways to tackle the obstacles.

You need to make a major decision, and it has a deadline

and affects other people. like family members.

A life coach can help you think it out loud, check your priorities, consider pros and cons.

Plus teaches you professional decision making tools most people never even heard of.

 

Takeaway

Working with a coach for even a few sessions can give you these immediate benefits:

  • You will see your situation clearer.
  • You will know what to do next.
  • You will have confidence doing it.

Ready, set, go! 🙂

Livia

PS: What are your goals to work for? Let me know in the comments below!

Five things I learnt about coaching… from a Canada goose family

I was riding my bike by the Bow river the other day, and stopped to watch a gosling with a big dilemma.

It was standing on the big rocks by the swirling water that was fast and high from the melting snow, and heard her Mamma call “Come on! We’re going!”.

Canada geese family swimming on Bow River, in Calgary.
Maybe the same goose family, same river but lot more quiet waters than in the story.

The family was leaving, swimming upstream. And there was this tiny few weeks old gosling, unsure and hesitating: should I jump towards Mommy on the rocks or should I swim after her?

Well, we’re not few weeks old anymore, but we can probably relate to this, eh?  When neither of our choices seem easy and we need some support. And quick!

Okay, here comes what Papa Goose taught me that day on how to be a better coach.

Coaches let clients do the work

Papa Goose didn’t solve the problem for his gosling. Yep. The little one had to swim and walk and jump all the way through.

Same goes with coaching. You, the client, have to sweat and think and struggle. (And dust yourself off and keep going after a bad move, with bleeding knees. I know.)

Coaches have faith in their clients

Did, at any time, Papa Goose pick up his baby to save her? Nope.

He watched closely and had faith in her that she will be able to do it eventually.

It might take a while. This is not an easy situation, swimming upstream, climbing rocks… But she can do it.

And so can you guys. If you set your mind to reach a goal, prepare carefully and keep doing your baby steps, I’m hundred percent positive you will get there. I have faith in you.

(How come? We haven’t even met! Because I believe that everybody can learn, change, and grow. If they want to. 🙂 )

Coaches listen carefully

At some point, baby gosling got totally carried away by the river… It looked like she is not going to stop ’til the ocean! So she started to make loud, fast ‘sheeep-sheeep-sheeep!’ sounds to signal Daddy that she is in trouble.

So when I’m having a coaching conversation, I’m listening closely. I pay attention to words, pauses, gestures, facial expressions… even the tension and energy coming from the client. People rarely make cute baby goose sounds, and rarely say explicitly what their biggest fears are… But us, coaches, have to be able to notice if something is wrong, if you guys are blocked, confused or afraid. So we could help you work your way through the mess.

Coaches are present… talking is overrated

Do you want to know what happened, when the river swept away the baby? Did Papa Goose give advice to his youngster? Told her what to do next? Warned her to be careful? No. Not a word. Not even a question.

He just stopped, swam right back to her and stayed with her.

Sometimes that’s all we can do. When the situation is just terribly bad, and my friend just cannot humanly do anything about it, I just stay with her. A little compassionate listening can go a long way to help us feel heard. And solutions will come later.

Coaches stay in touch and cheer

I noticed that while the baby found her solution, and jumped on rocks then swam a bit on quieter water then got out and jumped on rocks a bit again, Daddy made some gentle sounds from time to time. It was like ‘You’re getting there! Keep it up!’

His presence and his voice was enough for the gosling to calm down and keep paddling.

Coaches are the same for clients. You can count on us to be there when you are panicking, overwhelmed or ready to give up. Can we solve the problem for you? No.

But we can point out your strengths and cheer your efforts, as you are paddling like crazy and jumping on rocks. Way to go, baby goose!

Take away

In the end, the baby got a learning experience, some confidence boost and reached her goal. I work for about the same for all my clients, too. 🙂

If you have any questions, write a comment below or contact me through my contact page for a complimentary 30 minutes phone coaching session. Take care!